Regardless of how intelligent and smart you are, you cannot really succeed as a leader unless you begin to relate to the people around you. Ask the highly successful entrepreneur, Sebastian Greenwood, and he would tell you that one of the most important qualities of a good leader is being a people person who is both affable and approachable for those around him/her. Here are a few tips that will help you keep your negative emotions under constraint and become someone everybody loves to interact with.
Be a good listener
This world is an abrasive conundrum where everybody is striving to scream louder than the other. And the one thing most people cherish is being listened to. If you can provide someone the luxury of speaking their mind without being judged or cut off in mid sentence, you are essentially a people person who acknowledges and respects the opinions of others. Humans love to talk about themselves and someone who is ready to actually listen to what others have to say instantly becomes more relatable.
A manager that cringes or grimaces every time his/her teammates do something he/she disapproves of does not have much of a chance of climbing the ladder of hierarchy in his/her organization. You need to be more in control of your emotions and learn to exercise prudence when dealing with the people around you. Instead of making snap judgments or reacting with knee jerk comments, you need to learn to tackle situations in a cool headed manner and accept constructive criticism as an opportunity to enhance your skills and personality.
Refrain from robotic responses
Instead of incorporating coached responses in your everyday conversations, try to add a more personal touch to your interactions. For instance, ‘Good, how are you?’ might be the obvious answer to ‘How are you?’. However, it does not really sound like a real answer and may even come across as robotic. You can switch the age old mechanical response to such greetings by saying ‘ I have had better days’ and see how easily the follow-up conversation will flow without you having to make zero effort.
Make someone smile
This does not imply that you need to keep cracking jokes all day. A simple act of kindness or a smart positive remark is enough to bring a smile to someone’s face. You need to be more easygoing and fun to be with. A manager who treats his/her subordinates as actual human beings with emotions definitely has a chance at becoming a successful boss. After all, making someone smile in today’s highly stressful world is a priceless act of humanity that hardly goes unnoticed.
Make others feel important
Quoting Woodrow Wilson, Sebastian Greenwood once said,
“You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”
With the modern lifestyle being full of insecurities that breed nothing but negativity, people are desperate for acknowledgment and validation. You must learn to make others feel important and valuable. Understand that each one of us is created differently, and it is this individuality that makes us unique. Appreciate the efforts of your subordinates and make sure to give a pat on the back for every deadline that is successfully taken care of. After all, it is not about you all the time, is it?